Friends or Acquaintances
Have you ever listened to people talk…..just simply talk. If you take the time to listen, and listen critically (not in a mean sort of way) odds are you’ll notice that words have lost their meanings or have become devalued.
I want to use ‘Friends’ as an example.
Meriam Webster: Friend- one attached to another by affection or esteem. (This is referred to as the ‘full definition’…..there are others that are more loosely defined, but HEY! I’m old school when it comes to words…..I don’t like the lines blurred)
So, I meet someone in a bar…..are they my friend or my acquaintance? I have colleagues at work…..are they my friends or my acquaintances? I have a cousin that I see periodically……is he/she my friend or acquaintance?
You think I’m being a bit over the top with my definitions…..or maybe yours is a bit more laxed? Hear me on this for a moment.
I view a friend as someone I have invested time, thought, and emotions in, someone that I know more about than I may even want to know. And besides knowing that quirk, I’m gonna be around when they need me and I will support them in there times of need and endeavors. An acquaintance isn’t afforded that privilege. We met, chatted, shared a moment maybe others, but there’s not that investment. I have far more acquaintances in my life than friends. And that’s the way I want it to be. Not everyone can be my friend, I’m not gonna entrust everyone I meet with me.
I’m in awe of people referring to everyone as a ‘friend’……but then, they may be telling and trusting those people with intimate details of their lives…… And quite often I hear them say, “I thought they were my friend!”
Can you keep a secret? I can. I don’t have need to feel pseudo-important to tell a secret that someone has entrusted me with and blabber it about!!
For me a ‘friend’ is trustworthy and loyal…..I don’t take this lightly. Sometimes I realize that I’m more of a ‘friend’ to someone than they are to me……those tend to fall by the wayside.
I put a value on ‘friendship’….I cherish it.
I also, have a very small circle.
Let’s not devalue words……hold up a standard of meaning. Make those words live!
Peace, Love, and Beaches,